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“If you're always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.” Maya Angelou
Four Myths about Highly Sensitive People
Here are some of the myths you may have come to believe about yourself as a highly sensitive person...
- You’re too sensitive
- Struggle to be successful
- You’re kind and understanding
- You attract narcissists and energy vampires
...and here's why they’re not true…
How to quit being a social perfectionist and create healthy boundaries as a Highly Sensitive Person
Highly sensitive people (HSPs) are prone to being social perfectionists. If this is you, here are some tips on how you can work on the habit. We explore:
- Prioritise your engagement levels
- Not everyone's pain is your problem
- Stop taking on everyone's pains and problems
- Quit trying to make everyone happy
Six Reasons why you’re Sensitive to boundaries as a Highly Sensitive Person
Developing healthy, personal boundaries can be a real struggle for highly sensitive people, this is due to our sensitivity to the feelings, needs and boundaries of others. Here’s the area’s we cover…
Knowing how others feel
Highly Aware
Sensitive to the group dynamic
Pain of conflict
Unverbalised requests
Caregiver who was unpredictable
Four reasons why Highly Sensitive People ‘attract’ narcissists
Spoiler alert, contrary to popular opinion, highly sensitive people do not ‘attract’ narcissists. However, the problem, many highly sensitive people DO have, is they suffer from poor personal boundary setting, which leaves them vulnerable to narcissist abuse and can make them feel like a narcissist magnet.
So why is it that highly sensitive people get sucked into the narcissistic net more than the average person perhaps? Well, these are some of the reasons why…
Lessons I learnt as a Highly Sensitive Person from friends with badass boundaries
One of my teachers said to me the other day as we were discussing a work issue; ‘Oh well, you don't need to worry about that because you're really good with setting your boundaries’, which made me smile with amused pride and laugh at the irony that once - the opposite was true. As a highly sensitive person, setting healthy boundaries was something I used to really struggle with - but that’s not true anymore.
So it got me thinking, how did I change? Then immediately I thought of my friends who helped to teach me what healthy boundary setting looked like and modelled this for me. Here are some of the gems of teaching moments from three friends with badass boundaries…
The importance of rewilding for Highly Sensitive Women and what the Fierce Feminine has to teach us
For Highly Sensitive women, the fierce feminine can be an important ally for change and rebalance when it comes to our boundaries as well as seeing ourselves clearly. Rewilding and listening to the fierce energy within can empower us to be clear, honest and create greater freedom within and without. It is an act of rebalancing, often for over giving, people pleasing, peace making HSP’s. When we can integrate the force of this energy bit by bit, one decision or relationship at a time, it can feel a lot less intimidating. Until at some point you feel at ease with this aspect of yourself.
Eight Significant life decisions I made because I knew I was highly sensitive
Coming to the realisation that you are highly sensitive can be an empowering discovery because you can start to make adjustments in your life to support your needs as a sensitive person rather than deplete you; as well as starting to use your gifts to serve you and others.
Some of those life choices may be more significant than others or take longer to implement. I thought I would share some of the personal life decisions I made due to my highly sensitive nature. I hope it might help you reflect on your life too and changes that might be available to you.
Making friends with your Anger: A Protector and Messenger
Anger has a bad reputation and can be top of the emotional suppression list for many, especially for women. But our anger has a purpose, it can be our protector and a messenger if we are ready to listen and learn…