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“If you're always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.” Maya Angelou
How Narcissistic abuse damages your intuition—and how to rebuild it
Your intuition is your internal compass—that quiet voice that guides you toward what feels right and warns you when something is off. It's meant to be your most trusted ally, helping you navigate relationships, make decisions, and stay aligned with your authentic self. But when you've experienced narcissistic abuse, this inner guidance system becomes compromised, leaving you feeling lost, confused, and unable to trust your own perceptions.
The damage isn't accidental. Narcissistic abuse systematically targets your ability to trust yourself, creating a perfect storm of self-doubt that makes it nearly impossible to hear your inner voice. Understanding how this happens—and more importantly, how to heal from it—is crucial for reclaiming your power and rebuilding your relationship with your intuition.
Four Myths about Highly Sensitive People
Here are some of the myths you may have come to believe about yourself as a highly sensitive person...
- You’re too sensitive
- Struggle to be successful
- You’re kind and understanding
- You attract narcissists and energy vampires
...and here's why they’re not true…
How to quit being a social perfectionist and create healthy boundaries as a Highly Sensitive Person
Highly sensitive people (HSPs) are prone to being social perfectionists. If this is you, here are some tips on how you can work on the habit. We explore:
- Prioritise your engagement levels
- Not everyone's pain is your problem
- Stop taking on everyone's pains and problems
- Quit trying to make everyone happy
Six Reasons why you’re Sensitive to boundaries as a Highly Sensitive Person
Developing healthy, personal boundaries can be a real struggle for highly sensitive people, this is due to our sensitivity to the feelings, needs and boundaries of others. Here’s the area’s we cover…
Knowing how others feel
Highly Aware
Sensitive to the group dynamic
Pain of conflict
Unverbalised requests
Caregiver who was unpredictable
Four reasons why Highly Sensitive People ‘attract’ narcissists
Spoiler alert, contrary to popular opinion, highly sensitive people do not ‘attract’ narcissists. However, the problem, many highly sensitive people DO have, is they suffer from poor personal boundary setting, which leaves them vulnerable to narcissist abuse and can make them feel like a narcissist magnet.
So why is it that highly sensitive people get sucked into the narcissistic net more than the average person perhaps? Well, these are some of the reasons why…
Lessons I learnt as a Highly Sensitive Person from friends with badass boundaries
One of my teachers said to me the other day as we were discussing a work issue; ‘Oh well, you don't need to worry about that because you're really good with setting your boundaries’, which made me smile with amused pride and laugh at the irony that once - the opposite was true. As a highly sensitive person, setting healthy boundaries was something I used to really struggle with - but that’s not true anymore.
So it got me thinking, how did I change? Then immediately I thought of my friends who helped to teach me what healthy boundary setting looked like and modelled this for me. Here are some of the gems of teaching moments from three friends with badass boundaries…
Practising boundaries for surviving Christmas for Highly Sensitive People
The festive season is an idealised time of year culturally and in the media, however the reality for many of us is it can be a challenging time of year due to loneliness or family dynamics.
There can be a lot of pressure during the festive season for everyone to be ‘happy and having a magical time’ or create further strain on relationships that are already difficult. As highly sensitive people who are very aware of group dynamics, this can feel deeply uncomfortable and create anxiety. So in this blog, we will address how you could approach it differently to support, not only your wellbeing, but that of others...
Six Reasons why healthy boundaries are transformative for Highly Sensitive People
Often highly sensitive people can feel anxious about developing stronger, healthier, personal boundaries. We can fear losing friendships or upsetting people, facing up to conversations or people that we are afraid of and where we don’t want to irrevocably rock the boat even though we are struggling. We may block ourselves from action by focusing on our fears of rejection or disconnection whilst not recognising all there is to gain from this potential positive change of adjusting our personal boundaries. So in this article, I want to explore some of the possible transformational benefits.
The importance of rewilding for Highly Sensitive Women and what the Fierce Feminine has to teach us
For Highly Sensitive women, the fierce feminine can be an important ally for change and rebalance when it comes to our boundaries as well as seeing ourselves clearly. Rewilding and listening to the fierce energy within can empower us to be clear, honest and create greater freedom within and without. It is an act of rebalancing, often for over giving, people pleasing, peace making HSP’s. When we can integrate the force of this energy bit by bit, one decision or relationship at a time, it can feel a lot less intimidating. Until at some point you feel at ease with this aspect of yourself.
How embodied awareness enables Highly Sensitive People establish healthy boundaries
For HSP’s who can also often feel uncomfortable exercising or communicating their needs in favor of supporting others; starting to develop healthy boundaries can feel uncomfortable and it can help to take a gradual approach to it… But how do we do it? We learn what our boundaries and limits are by developing our somatic awareness then beginning to notice your body’s physical and energetic response to certain: people, places, situations or events and so on. Read on to learn more…
Why motherhood can trigger a healing crisis and become an initiation into authentic power for Highly Sensitive women
What no one tells you before you become a Mother is that you are embarking on a heroine's journey of transformation. From conception your psyche enters a ‘death and rebirth process’, as your body is transformed in pregnancy (and post), your old life dies overnight after the birth, your routine is remodelled, your responsibilities radically shift, your availability, energy and capacity profoundly alter…as do you. This process becomes an initiation into a new life that requires you to change your way of being to meet your new demands as a highly sensitive Mother and survive your new world which can bring about both a healing crisis and an intense evaluation of our relationships.
Eight Significant life decisions I made because I knew I was highly sensitive
Coming to the realisation that you are highly sensitive can be an empowering discovery because you can start to make adjustments in your life to support your needs as a sensitive person rather than deplete you; as well as starting to use your gifts to serve you and others.
Some of those life choices may be more significant than others or take longer to implement. I thought I would share some of the personal life decisions I made due to my highly sensitive nature. I hope it might help you reflect on your life too and changes that might be available to you.
Fifteen Signs you're an Empath
Ever wondered if you're an Empath? Maybe it's a term you’ve heard of recently and you're thinking… is that me? Well this article is going to help you decide.
Eight Reasons Empaths can have late blooming careers
What is it about our journey as Empaths that may cause limitations on the way and make some of us late bloomers in our careers? If you are highly sensitive and experience a frustrated sentiment of not having fulfilled your potential yet, then read on to reflect on why this might be…
Five Challenges of Motherhood as an Empath
Motherhood is a demanding and transformative journey for most but as an Empath some of these challenges may feel amplified due to your highly sensitive nature. Alongside that, our unhelpful tendencies as an empath can rear up clashing with the requirements of our role as a Mother. Here are a few issues you might encounter: 1 Isolation due to overwhelm. 2 Low tolerance of intensity. 3 Lack of space, time and energy. 4 Parenting triggering unhealed wounds. 5 New role revealing family dynamics. Read more…
Six Overwhelm Triggers for Highly Sensitive People
For sensitive souls, feeling overwhelmed can be a continual or reoccurring problem. One of the drawbacks of the blessing of being highly sensitive is that the world can feel intense and overwhelming at times, even in ‘mundane’ situations when those around you are just fine.
The beauty however is that once we start to understand and acknowledge our sensitive nature we can begin to make shifts that support and nourish us more deeply rather than deplete us. So here are some classic overwhelm trigger's for Empaths and what you can do in response to support yourself.
Making friends with your Anger: A Protector and Messenger
Anger has a bad reputation and can be top of the emotional suppression list for many, especially for women. But our anger has a purpose, it can be our protector and a messenger if we are ready to listen and learn…