Unlock Your Soul Mission: How Personal Development, Intuition & Boundaries Lead the Way
How do we determine or recall our soul's mission? It's not something we figure out overnight; it's a journey that involves revisiting three key elements repeatedly: personal development, intuition, and boundaries.
Personal Development
What I often hear from people is 'What is the 'project' I'm here to do?!' - thinking that it lies somewhere 'out there'. But here's the truth: you are it. You are the foundation of any external manifestation that's going to happen. The work you do on your evolution and expression of skills and interests will lead to the project. You always start and continually return to yourself.
The search for our soul mission is about being in deep alignment with our higher self and channelling what message you're here to share, what gifts or skills you're here to impart, and the lessons you've learned from your wounding that you can teach others. This will be unique to each of us (see examples in my blog: What is Channelling? How Tapping into Higher Wisdom Can Elevate Your Spiritual Business).
Since we ARE the soul mission project, our personal development forms the foundation of what we're here to deliver for others. Your healing, learning, self-understanding, and evolution are paramount—they're the key to everything else.
What Does This Look Like in Practice?
Here are the questions that guide this inner work:
Alignment Check: Is this the right fit for me? Is this all of 'it' or part of the answer I'm seeking? (this yoga practice, teacher, philosophy, methodology, or group)
Strengths & Shadows: What are my key strengths, and what weaknesses do they bring? Do I need support? (For example: You might be disciplined but too rigid... so you need an outside perspective to help you stay flexible and see other possibilities)
Thriving Conditions: What do I need to flourish? (Working in a team or solo, living in the city or country)
Healing Focus: What healing work needs my attention next to unlock my full potential? (trauma symptoms, mindset issues, emotional healing, ancestral work)
Learning Edge: What's drawing my interest now? What information, education, or learning feels like the next piece? (a book, podcast, business coaching, new course)
Energy Balance: Where am I putting my energy - does the balance feel right? (Do I need space and rest, more input, or to focus on family instead of work?)
Personal Support: What activities support my balance and growth right now? (breathwork, gym, early mornings, friendship)
Self-enquiry, curiosity, and willingness to change are what lead you to the work you're here to do. We're constantly reviewing: where am I now, what requires my attention or readjustment? As you evolve, your needs will change, but you'll have a foundation of self-understanding, skills, and growth to build upon.
The House Metaphor
Think of it like building a house for people to visit from the ground up. You need to understand the land, clear the space, make the foundation, then the walls, roof, plumbing, and so on. You might need specialists for parts outside your expertise, but you can step back and know what comes next. You might occupy one room while others are still under construction. Eventually, over time, it comes together into a cohesive home where you can invite people in, though it will never be "done" and will always need maintenance.
Unlike a house, however, you're not privy to the architect's plans! You're working it out intuitively as you go. Continue to step back, reflect, and review.
This inner work and self-understanding lead to the external manifestation of the project you're being called to deliver. To achieve this, we need to listen to our intuition...
Further reading
The personal transformation and letting go required to discover your soul mission
The Truth About Your Soul Purpose: Overcoming Fear, Doubt & Inner Struggles
Intuition
Your intuition is your compass in this process. It's like you're in the dark with a torch, and the beam of light only shows you the way so far. You can only see the next few stepping stones in front of you. This is what your intuition reveals, so you take those few steps towards your soul mission project.
Your intuition helps you find the path to healing practices that will help you currently, mentors who will nurture you, the training you need to integrate, relationships or friendships to have or to leave, health and wellbeing practices that support you, jobs to have or to leave, and where to live next.
Your intuition is the finger pointing to the next item that will support your self-development, as well as align you with opportunities. The destination is living in greater alignment with your higher self and being authentically yourself, thereby allowing you to be a channel for the universe, for that project or mission to flow through you.
For this to happen, you need to get out of your own way, get out of your comfort zone, do the personal development, approach things unconventionally by living intuitively, continually needing to trust, and take intuitive leaps of faith. All whilst not knowing where you're heading!
You have to be willing to be intuitively guided, which is often not easy or convenient. My conscious self usually feels as though she's being dragged along by my higher self, having to face things I'd rather not, or deal with my discomfort, whether that's a difficult conversation, becoming more visible, or leaving a community I've loved. Your intuition is guiding you to evolve and moving you toward new opportunities. It's brave and unconventional, not the typical way of living. It's incredibly growthful.
To listen to our intuition, we must take action and learn to discern what to say no to and what to say yes to, which requires setting boundaries.
Further reading
Why you lack confidence in your intuitive voice and how to grow it
Six reasons your intuition might be leaving you in the dark
Boundaries
We wouldn't necessarily associate boundaries with discovering our soul mission. However, to be in the intuitive flow, you must decide what to say yes to and what to say no to. Boundaries are your friend. Boundaries are your container. Your boundaries help you uncover your authentic self and fulfil your soul's mission project. Boundaries protect your path and filter out what dims your light:
Define what deserves your time and energy, and be clear about it. For example, decide to work on your own writing for 2 hours a week and make it clear to your family that you are not to be disturbed during this time.
Learn to say yes or no to opportunities. Listen to your intuition to know whether it's time to leave a job or stay, go for that training or wait for the next round, leave the house or city you live in, end or continue the relationship you're in, and so on.
Learn to say yes or no to people. Decide who deserves your precious time and energy by noticing and being honest about who drains you and who inspires or nourishes you.
Know what conditions support you and structure your life around them. For example, working in a team or solo, working from home with no long commute, spending time in nature, and so on.
Creating healthy boundaries can be a struggle for many of us, especially for highly sensitive individuals and empaths. It can be a steep and uncomfortable learning curve! One way we can benefit is by having healthy role models or by receiving some training. We must become comfortable with setting boundaries for our time, energy, and focus, which can involve making adjustments in our lives, both significant and less significant, to create healthy conditions in which to grow, evolve, and discover our path.
With clients, they usually receive intuitive information; however, they often lack confidence or have simply been unwilling to listen and take action so far—until a significant break pushes them to listen, such as hitting burnout or their marriage ending. It's often fear that holds us back: the fear of being different, the fear of getting it wrong, the fear of change, the fear of saying no, the fear of being authentically ourselves.
New opportunities are available to us; however, they will require us to do things differently, which will be uncomfortable, but that is part of the growth process. This is where it takes courage to be willing to change, to trust and follow our intuitive hunches, to set new boundaries, to take a different approach to the mainstream, to believe in yourself and, above all, to be your authentic self.
Further reading
Receiving Intuitive Information but Not Taking Action: The Solution
How embodied awareness enables highly sensitive people establish healthy boundaries
Nicole Drummond, Intuitive Coach and Healing Channel. Offering one-to-one sessions for Soulful Solopreneurs, Intuitive Development Training and mentoring Courses for Souls with a Mission as well as free workshops and free resources. Watch more Youtube channel
